#1 My Vibrations…Or Not?

 

We are Energy, we Vibrate, we seek Accord and Connection. We want to Sync.

A couple of years ago,  a client of mine was on the brink of divorcing her husband, after 10 years of marriage.

Ada complained that her husband changed dramatically in the last year, she feared that he was cheating on her, and she felt that there was no love left between them.

In our meeting, after a couple of sentences, Ada asked me:

– ”My mother-in-law moved into town last year. Is this the problem? Is she interfering between me and my husband”?

I remember that I took a couple of breaths. I wanted my best potentials at hand to describe my point of view on the situation, and I said this to Ada:

– We are like musical instruments, singing our songs. Songs of thoughts, emotions, and actions – because everything is energy and vibration.

When your husband is with you, he sings the tunes of your family. He sings the songs that you are used to. You two sing together. Maybe sometimes you feel the sync, the connection. Sometimes you don’t. But you keep singing your songs and you keep working to sync as a family.

When he goes to his mother, he remembers their own family song. With her, he will always be her little son. We can be children to our parents even after we grew old. It is a gift of love beyond time.

You know that sometimes you hear a song and you keep humming that song in your mind?

Well, in a similar way, your husband comes back home from his mothers, and he is still humming the songs of his childhood, although he came home to you.

But he comes back home singing a different kind of song that yours.

And the questions here are, do you like that he’s singing a different song? With someone else as a family?

Do you like how his music sounds?

How does his music make you feel?

– ”Hmm, I don’t like him to sing with his mother, if you put it this way. We worked a lot to become the family we are today. His parents were usually nice but they weren’t nice to each other.  His mother and father had a difficult marriage. I don’t want anything like that to be added to our kind of music.

I realize a fear that he will change too much if he will her often”, said Ada…

– He is the same,  he is your husband. He just carries with him the vibrations of his old family, the family he had with his parents.

We can carry songs that we sing only at work, and we can carry different songs that we sing with different people.

That doesn’t change us.

It just helps us realize who we are.

The most important thing is to take time to sync with ourselves.

We are not the music we sing with, or for others.

We are the music inside us, the One that we feel, hear, sing with all our body, heart, soul and mind”.

And… WE CAN CHOOSE IT.

Take a walk in nature, spend some time with yourself. Feel yourself.

Sync with you! Sync with your Soul.

Being connected with your Soul means being connected with your Life Purpose,

Being in Sync with your Soul means having a life of Abundance and Fulfillment.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Authenticity Series – Part 3

The previous post of the series ends with 3 questions,

1. What part or trait that makes you YOU, is still shut down in yourself?

2. What keeps you from feeling whole with all your beautiful traits?

3. What would the aliveness of that part bring into your life?

 

 If we feel ashamed of any part of ours, we will try to hide it, from us and from others.

If we blame us for being daring, bold, for being passionate, what do we do? Do we allow our passion to guide us?

       Or, do we allow our blame to put down the fire of our passions?

If you have thoughts like: ”I wish I was different”, ” I wish I was better with money”, ”I wish I was smarter or more beautiful or more intuitive” or whatever, is you blaming yourself for who you are.

If others blame or criticize you for something, and you tend to be a people pleaser, it may very well be that you prefer to hide and shut down bits of yourself, in an attempt to please others and be at peace with them.

2. We are different because through us being different, the world is enriched. We are smart, our way. We are beautiful, our way. We are unique. And world needs us, unique as we are.

When I started working as a coach, I asked myself this question a lot. There are a lot of intuitive people out there. Actually, what I teach people is that all of us can learn how to tap into its own fountain of intuition and knowledge. ”So, being me, or being unique, it’s not so important”, were my thoughts.

And I was wrong.

Because, through my gifts, I was the one who was able to reach to certain people: my friends, my neighbors, my family and my clients.

And you are the one who is able to be there for yours. Not to save them. Because that is their choice.

But to show yourself as beautiful as you are, so they will have the courage to be as beautiful as they are.

To show yourself as smart as you are, so they will have the courage to be as smart as they are.

To show yourself as bold and loving as you are, so they will the courage to be creative and determined and true.

3. Because the answer to question 3 is that through this, through being yourself and unique:

You are changing the world, YOUR WORLD, for the better. 

And no one else can do this, but you.

Maybe you are still waiting that those around will make a change and from that change, your world will be better.

Doesn’t work this way because each of us is responsible for its reality. Nobody knows better than you how your world should look like. Each of us knows its part. And each of us is responsible for its own.

Don’t wait any longer, let all parts grow into YOU. And your world will start changing as a mirror of you.

P.S. Schedule your FREE Discover Your Authenticity 30 minutes Call with me.

 

 

The Authenticity Series, Part 2

In the Authenticity Series, Part 1, I share that:

 

-We think that parts of us make us unsuitable for the world in which we want to fit.

-We chose to dismiss those traits and hide them from the world.

-We set ourselves in an “I am not Enough” mode, by hiding who we are.

                Hiding who we are, hiding that we are Unique.

Our reasons for doing it are understandable!

We feel that it would be easier to be accepted if we are more like others.

We are afraid that we won’t be appreciated if we honestly show who we are, to the world.

We think that it would be easier to be loved if we hide that we’re different.

We crave connection and love and we believe that we will get it if we are like the rest of the world.

And we did hide those parts and traits for so long, that we started to forget what it means for us to be us.

My mother loved to work hard. She had it in her blood. My grandparents loved to work hard. So when I grew up, skinny and shy and fragile, writing poems and being a dreamer, my mother got scared.

“What would you eat, when you’ll be a grown-up? Your poems? Your dreams?’’

And she meant good. From her point of view, people who work hard, have money. People who work hard, have something to eat. Of course, she was worried about me. Mothers usually are.

But, in time, while growing up, I thought that she was right.

I got afraid that there is something wrong with me because I wasn’t what she taught me to be.

I started to make more choices that pleased my parents. I started to make the choices that my parents thought to be safer for me.

Instead of following my passion for writing and poems and literature, I chose to shut down my passion and follow chemistry and mathematics.

Instead of following my passion for theatre, I chose to shut down that passion and become an engineer.

I became an engineer, and I practiced for one month. After one month, I chose to quit. It wasn’t for me.

And it took me more than 10 years to find myself back.

I spent 6 years of learning and preparing for a craft that wasn’t suitable for me and 5 more years to remember the truth of my Soul: to dream, to love and to write.

With love and writing and dreaming, and more important with the energy of my Soul, I discovered that I am enough and that there is enough value within writing, and dreaming, and loving.   

What part or trait that makes you YOU, is still shut down in yourself?

What would the aliveness of that part bring into your life?

What keeps you from feeling whole with all your beautiful traits?

 

The Authenticity Series, Part 1

 

I worked in commerce and sales for more than 15 years.

I tried so hard to do my best at it and because my best seemed to be not enough, I thought that:

I wasn’t enough.

Now, looking back at those 15 years, I understand things differently:

I ”was enough”! My perceptions told me ‘’ I am less’’ so I made choices from within those perceptions.

How?

Easy. I chose to dismiss a lot of parts of me, hide them from myself and others.

Why?

I thought those parts made me unsuitable for the business world in which I wanted to fit.

So?

I set myself in an “I am not Enough” mode by hiding parts that were authentically mine.

Then?

People can sense other people. Confident people, those who I wanted to be like and be with, they dismissed me because I was in an “I am not Enough” mode.

Which? Which parts did I hide? I have a couple of examples:

My generous side.

People considered me naive because I was generous. So I just shut it down.

My dreamer part.

Others considered that I am childish because I had dreams. So I just stop myself from dreaming. 

By shutting these down, it was ME that gave up being enough,

I gave up being Me… 

My teacher, the kitchen sink

I love to cook, my boyfriend loves to be surrounded by friends, so we have friends over to dinner rather often in our home.

One of our friends noticed that I don’t have a kitchen sink filter and he kindly suggested that I should buy and use one, otherwise the plumbing might get clogged.

“Not interested. I barely used kitchen sink filters in any of the places in which I have lived, and I never had any problems”, I thought to myself. But in the next few days, I caught myself thinking differently:” Maybe I should just buy one of those sink filters”.

Please imagine my surprise, my annoyance, and my frustration when the plumbing got clogged one week later. No way this is happening to me!

I believe that we can learn from everything that shows up in our lives, even from the smallest thing.

I kept asking myself, the Universe and my boyfriend why was this happening.

The Universe answered promptly and quickly as he always is, but I couldn’t hear it through all my shouting and yelling.

My boyfriend’s answer was simple and audible: “Just relax. It’s a sink, not a world crisis. We’ll sort it out”.

It took me a while to quiet my emotions and then I heard the Universe’s answer: “This was possible because you accepted it in your creation as a possibility”.

I am Romanian. I was raised believing in jinx. When someone wishes you evil, when someone looks at you in a certain way, you may get sick. Looking at my clogged sink I was feeling my thoughts slowly going back to the jinx scenario. Each time my mind tried to get me there: you were jinxed, I pulled back. I refused to blame anyone else. I do my best to take responsibility for my thoughts, my feelings, my actions, my life – I wasn’t willing to blame others.

The maintenance guy came the next day and he found out that the blockage was somewhere in the main pipe, not related directly to me. The issue was solved! In the material plane.

In my mind, things were still fuzzy and unclear. It took me a while to figure it out.

I believed in what our guest told us might happen. By believing him, I came to the point of visualizing a clogged sink. By visualizing it, I lived the emotions of such an experience before the actual event took place. More than that, once in that “movie”, my mind went so far as to searching solutions for a problem that didn’t yet exist!

I accepted the truth of a guest in my thought and my life and I walked the main steps of creation: belief, visualize, feel the emotion of the result, live as though you got the result already.  

We see problems everywhere in the world. The minute we accept them when we believe that those problems may one day be ours, when we visualize ourselves through those problems, when we feel in us the pain of those problems, we open ourselves for those problems to become our reality.

Fortunately, there is also the need for focus, of recurrence and consistency to manifest realities.

So, we can watch horror movies without necessarily inviting those events into our own lives. We know that we are just watching a movie, not a reality.

The situation may change when we watch the news if we believe that what happened to others may happen to us.

The situation is different when trusted people come telling us that we may clog our sink, that X and Y are losing money or winning less and that there is a new monetary crisis waiting around the corner. “Of course, he’s right and this may happen anywhere anytime”, we may think. “ Because this happens all the time”, we may think.

And the minute we agree with these possibilities as being a general truth, we open a door for those possibilities to become real.

This is why observing ourselves, observing our thoughts, learning how we actually create realities, is so important:  to catch ourselves before we get the kitchen sink clogged.

We were taught to believe that we are victims of life, not partners in creation. We’d rather start hating our friends for jinxing us than look honestly into ourselves: where and when and how did I agree on creating this situation?

So, now I smile each time I get myself in front of my kitchen sink and I feel grateful: thank you for this beautiful lesson! Wow, how amazing it is, that I manifest all that I believe in. I am a wonderful being and I am grateful for the journey that is my life.

 

Labels

Living in a world of contrasts pushes us to mark and label everything, including ourselves. In relationship with so many factors surrounding us, we seem to gain time and energy if we just label things as good, bad, not so good, not so bad, acceptable, unacceptable and so on. We rarely bother to admit that each of us has a free right to its own choices and choices by themselves don’t make anyone good or bad.
So we label ourselves, we label others, we label the choices, we label situations, we label everything. We stuff it in a box, we add the label on it and then we put the box on a shelf within our computer-like minds. It’s easier like this, because every time we encounter one more time that person, that situation, that event, we don’t have to analyze it all over once again: we have it already in a box on a shelf😊. We just have to glance at that particular box, “read“ the label and act or react accordingly. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Well, it may be. And still, sometimes it’s not. We are not used to checking our boxes, to re-label them, to open them and throw out some of the old stuff. So our shelves get more and more boxes each day and while we learn something new we tend to keep also what it’s old. And labels may start contradicting themselves. So this means we have an internal conflict. On one box it may be written that our ex is the only person in the whole world who can make us happy. We added this label on him while we were really in love and we thought that he was the source of our wonderful bliss. And then we split up and we stuffed him into another box, writing on it: this was the greatest mistake of my life! Never go near a person like that again! So we have at least 2 boxes for him. And those labels fight us back in our real life because we are living through those boxes, we are thinking those labels. We feel like there is no one out there for us – because we live from the old box that our ex was the only person in the whole world who can make us happy. We may even meet people that are exact opposites of our ex and still, we are not happy while we live from the second box that says: Never go near a person like that again! We are not happy with the opposite kind of guy because we kept the first box which says that the ” bad ” guy is making us happy.
Choosing between opposites is one side of the experience and this is a way of choosing with which we are accustomed.
De-labeling is an empowering way of choosing. Whenever you encounter a person you don’t like, a situation that you would prefer to avoid, check your boxes. Go inside yourself, follow your thoughts, allow yourself gently to see what have you labeled and what are your labels saying regarding that unpleasant person or situation.
Decide what you choose to believe, what you choose to accept. Do you think that your labeling is accurate? Do you need to keep that label? Do you want to get out of that box?
When you release a label, you set yourself free in a relationship with the type of things that you stuffed in that box.
Love yourself so much that you allow yourself to be free. It is a process of learning and we can learn how to do it.

Did you know?

…Did you know that fulfilling your highest dreams means to express the purpose of your soul?

…Did you know that the power of your heart can be turned into healing you?

…Did you know that from within your heart you can set the direction of your life and you can learn how to set the direction towards your highest dreams?

The beauty of energy is that we don’t have to receive the answer to any of these questions.
Having the answer in our minds is not so important.

Rather, a question is more important than the answer itself.

My favorite question is this: ” What is possible for me, and my Soul wants me to become aware of it?”

I don’t try to answer it with my mind. I just let the question float in my mind, for a while…
Beautiful things happen each time: Possibilities emerge, Beliefs raise to a higher vibration, I feel touched by my Soul.

 

Decisions

Did you know that one of the biggest challenges that people face today is Taking decisions?

Did you know that we actually build our life through each step we take whether we are making conscious decisions or unconscious ones?

Did you know that by taking decisions based on others opinions you create for yourself the life others think that you should live?

All the information we need in order to create the life we want are inside us. Speak to yourself as you are your best friend and ask yourself what would make you happy, what would make you healthy, what would make you abundant. Relax, smile and listen to yourself.

The answers within you will take you to the decisions and the life you desire.  

 

Building our Future

We are taught to choose and decide carefully when going to school when marrying when comes to our career.

But mostly we go through life unaware that we are making decisions all the time. I like to call them micro-decisions not to diminish their importance, but because they are not immediately visible to us, just as any micro-stuff.

We decide our life and our future continuously not only through conscious decisions but also through micro-decisions. By being unaware of this process we may fall easily into the trap of seeing ourselves as victims of other’s doings.

A first step to consciously build our future would be to embrace the idea that we already are CREATORS of our lives.

I was skinny most of my life. Then, after 40, I gained 10 kg in less than a year.
Initially, I blamed my genes, their timing, the food, my appetite, my habits, other people’s habits.
The extra weight stayed…
I wanted to regain my old body. I wanted to lose weight.
I went unprepared into this project, and my mind activated the fear of pain and sabotaged me, unconsciously, every step of the way.

My visual sense kept seeing that extra weight, making it hard to sustain a fluent visualization of a lighter version of me.

My heart pulsed on a frequency on which the ability to change was blocked.

And, most of all, I felt fat.

Then, of course, I had minimum results… I wasn’t able to think, act or feel myself other than fat.

Why? How was this possible? How did I go from skinny to fat? What happened to me?

Did I ”created” my body with the extra 1o kgs?
YES!
Around 40, I had some rough time. I lost people that I loved and I lost money.
Somewhere deep inside me, I felt weakened, so I took an unconscious decision to gain some weight.
Because to me, as for some of us, it feels like a person with more weight is likely to have more power.
It was my decision, even if I wasn’t aware of it on all levels. Thankfully, I became aware of it by understanding how energy works.

I don’t have to blame my age or the food or even my genetics for it anymore.
By understanding the energy, how I function and why, I don’t feel the urge to blame others or myself.
I made the conscious decision to be healthy and to express my Ideal Weight.
I am healthy. As for the weight, it is an ongoing process, it seems that my body is still adjusting itself, therefore my ideal weight is adjusting, too.
An interesting feeling came up, after understanding: feeling good in my skin., something that I never felt before, no matter how young or fit I was.
Then feelings of peace and calm: I can smile and relax into knowing that whatever I decide, it will manifest in my life.
Whenever we understand how we function, we have more conscious decisions, which means that we know: what do we want and why do we want it.
And these are the kind of decisions that fill our hearts with joy and our life with dreams coming true.