We are taught to choose and decide carefully when going to school, when marrying, when comes to our career.
But mostly we go through life unaware that we are taking decisions all the time. I like to call them micro-decisions not to diminish their importance, but because they are not immediately visible to us, just as any micro-stuff.
We decide our life and our future continuously not only through conscious decisions but also through micro-decisions. By being unaware of this process we may fall easily into the trap of seeing ourselves as victims of other’s doings.
A first step to consciously build our own future would be to embrace the idea that we can and we already are building our lives.
Let’s say I want to lose weight. When I go unprepared into this project, my mind will start to activate fear of pain and it will unconsciously sabotage me at every step of the way.
My visual sense will keep seeing me as I am at the current moment, unable to sustain a fluent visualization of a lighter future me.
My heart will pulse on a frequency on which the ability to change is blocked.
And then of course there can be no result in losing weight.
I had less weight a couple of years before, but I encountered some struggling situations and I took the microdecision that a person with more weight is likely to have more power. It was my decision. I wasn’t aware of it, but it is still mine. I don’t have to blame my age or the food or even my genetics for it. I just need to smile and to find out, this time consciously: what do I really want and why I want it. Then I can consciously make a choice that my heart will follow.